That’s actually the point, though. We asked ourselves. We did the research. We found no satisfactory answers, and indeed the more research we do the worse the picture looks. We’re giving feminists a chance to offer their own on the off chance that ours was inadequate and at the same time posing these questions to others so they can do a bit of internal examination themselves. We would like nothing more that to be proven utterly wrong, because then we wouldn’t have to sit and do this when there are hundreds of other things we’d enjoy much more. However, nobody has yet even come even close to proving us wrong.
The questions we’re asking are based on what we see as fundamental contradictions within the feminist movement, things that are inherently contradictory to the stated goal of equality. As you might have noticed there are many. You can claim that these are “generalizations,” but between us we have decades of experience with the feminist movement, and have dealt with hundreds if not thousands of feminists. Our views on feminism are based not only on hundreds of individual, personal encounters but also on a knowledge of the political movements of feminism as a unit. You yourself might have no clue what “the personal is political” actually means, but we have examined feminism in both personal and political contexts and found it wanting and that particular slogan is just as problematic as the rest.
A large issue is that people misunderstand the common phrase “If feminism is for equality, why do feminists….” This isn’t intended to imply that all feminists engage in this behavior. What it means is it’s either a behavior we’ve seen from a large percentage of the feminist population, or one that’s being perpetrated at the movement and organization level. It’s not a generalization at all, because it’s never intended to speak to an individual feminist. It doesn’t matter if not all feminists, or not even a majority of feminists behave a certain way so long as some (in significant number) do.